A Letter to my Mother-in-Law

Dear Mother-in-Law,

I hear horror stories all the time of women that don’t get along with their mothers-in-law. They complain about butting heads, receiving an overwhelming amount of unsolicited advice, criticisms when they do something differently than their mothers-in-law do, guilt trips when they don’t stop by with the kids every weekend, and countless other aggravating grievances.

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Frozen in the NICU

Time is such a funny thing. We all experience it differently depending on what’s going on in our lives, and yet, a day or week or year are all the exact same for us all.

Time flies when you’re having fun, but when you’re in the middle of a 60 second plank, it’s the longest 60 seconds of your life.

You find out you’re having a baby and time can’t slow down enough for you to get everything prepared. The weeks become months, and then before you it, it’s baby time!

At least, that’s how it should happen.

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Guest Author Post: Because of Preeclampsia

The world of preemies and NICU families contains such variety, and sometimes it’s hard for us to see how similar we all are, because we arrived at this place in such different ways.

My son was born via emergency c-section at 29 weeks and 2 days, and we’re not 100% why he came early (though we have suspicions).

I don’t fully comprehend preeclampsia, HELLP symdrome, PPROM, mulitple babies, micro preemies, tracheotomies; the list goes on. I can’t write on any of those topics, or a slew of others, from personal experience, because I have none.

Some of my warrior tribe (you!) do though, and I now have my first guest author blog!

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12 Popular New Year Resolutions and How to Keep Up With Them

It’s a new year, a fresh start, a blank slate.

With the new year, comes everyone’s resolutions. We all want to better ourselves, and what better time to start that transition with a fresh, new year?

Resolutions are wonderful, but many people give up on them by January 31st. It’s hard to make a drastic change in life, but not impossible. Getting started is the hardest part, and once we get moving, the momentum can carry us through.

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The Pit of Comparison

I wish I remember where I first saw the phrase “falling into the pit of comparison” but I love it, for many reasons.

Truthfully, it’s almost more of a swirling vortex of quicksand, doom, and depression rather than simply a “pit”, but that doesn’t have quite the same ring to it, nor does it flow off the tongue as easily.

The Pit of Comparison doesn’t only apply to our babies, or our view of ourselves as mothers, but for this blog I’m going to focus on those two genres/topics because this is supposed to be a mommy blog after all.

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Why I Love My NICU Support Group

When my son was first admitted to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, I thought I could handle it alone. I had seen a flyer for a support group meeting on the fridge on my way back to my son’s pod, but I didn’t ever bother to check and see when the meetings were or where.

I have dealt with family in the hospital before. I’m a sign language interpreter, so I have worked bedside assignments before.

I’ve never been a mother before, though.

I’ve never watched my child fight for his tiny little life.

I’ve never had half of my heart outside of my body and watched it struggle to surive.

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Depression & Anxiety in the NICU

As you’ve probably figured out, the NICU is a hard place to be.

Parents have to watch their babies grow in incubators and must leave them behind at the hospital every night.

That picture perfect idea they had during the pregnancy is shattered and replaced with nurses, doctors, specialists, medications, surgeries, tubes, wires, machines, monitors, and the very high possibility that depression and anxiety will take a firm hold on their lives.

It’s no wonder why parents get sucked into the pull of depression while in the NICU; my husband and I did.

I can’t speak for my husband and what exactly he felt, but he was the one that suggested the two of us went to counseling so we could deal with it (which I am forever grateful for).

I can, however, break down what was going on in my head.

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5 Fun Baby Keepsake Items

It may not seem like it in the moment, with the sleepless nights, the incessant crying, the constant laundry piling up, and the never ending string of dirty diapers, but babies don’t stay babies for very long.

In the moment it feels like an eternity, but truthfully, their infancy passes by and before you know it, they’re toddling around and making mischief.

It’s important to me, to keep the memories of my son’s infancy alive; even from his NICU stay.

I have pulled together a list of 5 baby keepsake ideas to help you keep the memories of your little one’s baby days alive, too.

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How to Keep Your Relationship From Falling Apart in the NICU

Having a baby can put a lot of strain on a relationship.

Having a baby in the NICU adds even more strain.

Rarely do couples handle stress the same way, and they may tend to lash out at one another when emotions become too much and bubble over (or explode, in some cases).

My husband and I certainly don’t cope with stressful situations the same way, and having a baby in the NICU proved to be no different. The strain of the situation could have ripped us apart, but we managed to glide through relatively unscathed.

While I am by no means a relationship expert and I cannot promise what worked for us will work for you, here’s what we did to survive our son’s NICU stay.

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Breaking Free of Mommy Guilt

It seems like in the age of social media, the pressures to be the perfect parent are even heavier, and the help to achieve said perfection is more scarce.

Everywhere you click, there are articles about how you’re messing up your baby, reasons why you are a terrible person for not using cloth diapers, pressures to go to 100% organic and home-made food, guilt-trips to make you feel like you have to be a stay at home parent and home school your child if you want them to have any chance for success in life. It’s exhausting, and frankly, impossible to be the do-it-all parent.

I don’t use cloth diapers. Shame on me.

I feed my baby formula instead of breastmilk. How dare I?

I send my son to daycare so my husband and I can work full time. We’re so neglectful!

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