It’s a new year, a fresh start, a blank slate.
With the new year, comes everyone’s resolutions. We all want to better ourselves, and what better time to start that transition with a fresh, new year?
Resolutions are wonderful, but many people give up on them by January 31st. It’s hard to make a drastic change in life, but not impossible. Getting started is the hardest part, and once we get moving, the momentum can carry us through.
The 12 Most Popular New Year Resolutions:
- Diet/Eat Healthier
- Exercise More
- Lose Weight
- Save Money/Spend Less
- Learn a New Skill/Hobby
- Quit Smoking
- Read More
- Find a New Job/Earn More Money
- Drink Less Alcohol
- Spend More Time with Friends & Family
- Travel More
- Make More Friends
I think it’s safe to say that tackling any of these resolutions could be daunting, and it’s easy to see why so many people give up so soon after starting their venture, but you can make it work if you approach these changes from a different angle.
Making any big change is hard to do, and rather than looking at the whole thing, you have to take it bit by bit.
How do you eat an elephant?
One bite at a time
Keeping your New Year Resolutions:
GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME
Change doesn’t happen overnight, and you need to prepare yourself to succeed.
Sometimes a good pep talk can do wonders.
Look at inspirational photos, listen to motivating podcasts, follow positively influential people on social media. Get into the right mindset to be successful; you’d be amazed at how much that helps.
STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF AND WHAT MOTIVATES YOU
Rather than setting goals to appease someone else, be true to you and set a goal that you want to achieve!
If you want to lose weight, do it because you want to do it, not because someone else wants you to.
If you want to find another job, do it because you feel your heart being drawn to another profession, not because your cousin made a snarky remark about your job at Christmas dinner.
Don’t try keeping up with the Jones’, because then you’ll never be satisfied. Do what makes you happy and what you really want to do.
BE REALISTIC AND SET SMALLER SUB-GOALS
Setting the goal of reading 50 books in 2019 might not be realistic if you’ve read 5 books in the last two years.
Aim big, of course, but aim realistically as well.
Or, maybe instead of setting an overall goal for the entire year of 2019, set smaller, more easily achievable goals to keep you going.
We love instant gratification, and if it takes too long to get the reward, we’re more likely to give up. So instead of saying “I want to lose 50 pounds this year” try something smaller like “I want to lose 4 pounds per month/one pound per week” which is totally do-able.
WRITE OUT A PLAN AND BE SPECIFIC
Goals are great, but you need to have a plan to achieve said goals. Saying “I want to make more friends this year” is great, but how do you plan on doing it? Wanting to travel more is awesome, but you need the means to do so.
Write out with a plan on how you’re going to achieve your goals, and stick to it.
If your goal is to spend more time with friends and family, schedule that time in your day like you do doctor appointments and your kids’ school functions. Make the time to make your goals a reality.
If your resolution is to spend less money, create a realistic budget, and keep it where you can see it and follow it.
If you write out specific goals and specific plans, you’re more likely to follow them instead of just “winging it” and hoping for the best.
SHARE YOUR RESOLUTIONS WITH OTHERS
Accountability is a big motivator to keep up with your goals. Having a friend or family member checking up on your progress keeps you eager to stay on track and make them proud.
You may even find someone you care about set the same resolutions as you, and you can be each other’s support system!
If you want to quit smoking, telling your friends and family can prompt them to cheer you on and help provide distractions when you feel the itch to smoke. They will also be more understanding if your mood is off, and they can help keep you motivated when you feel yourself slipping.
DON’T LET A SLIP-UP RUIN YOU
You are not perfect. That’s perfectly fine.
If you find yourself falling off track and sliding back in to old habits, snap out of it and remind yourself why you made the resolution in the first place. One single day will not result in dramatic changes in the positive or negative. The change comes with several days, weeks, months strung together.
One slip up will not ruin your progress, but it can be a reminder of how much easier it would be to slip back into your bad habits. It can be an awful temptation, and you need to resist and dive back into your hard work, because you have come too far to give up.
What are my resolutions for 2019?
- Lose 65 pounds through proper eating and regular exercise, by my 8th wedding anniversary (September).
- Blog more regularly again.
I actually started my weight loss journey in August, and I’ve lost 22.7 pounds since I began. I slowed to a plateau in November and December, thanks to my birthday, Thanksgiving, and Christmas, but I am back at it and have already shed 4 pounds since getting back on track (see, I fell off the bandwagon but once I got back on track, my hard work paid off).
To get my head in the game, I’ve started following Lexi Reed on social media. My very dear friend showed me the @FatGirlFedUp account on Instagram, and I was instantly inspired to keep going. I was flooded with an overwhelming urge to get rid of the holiday junk food and go buy some veggies right then and there!
I don’t want to lose weight for my husband, for any friends, for anyone other than myself. My husband is a huge motivator for me, but I’m not doing this for him, as he loves me no matter what size I am. I am doing this for me, so that I can give my son a run for his money as he grows up. I want to be able to chase him around in the backyard and have my son be the first to wear out. I want to swim laps in the pool with him, and outrun him at the Half Marathon. I want to be happy and healthy for myself, so I can live my life and not watch it from the sidelines.
Saying I want to drop 65 pounds sounds like a lot. Again, I’ve dropped 22.7 since my all time heaviest in August, but I still have 42.3 to go before I’ve met my overall goal. The number is daunting, but I also have to keep in mind that some victories aren’t shown on the scale. Sometimes, it’s noticing that I can fit into a pair of jeans that I haven’t been able to squeeze into since 2011, or realizing that I took a flight of stairs without huffing and puffing.
As far as the number, though, instead of focusing on the overall amount of 42.3, I try breaking it up into smaller, monthly goals.
My specific plan for this month includes the DietBet I joined with FatGirlFedUp. I’ve pledged to lose 4% of my body weight by February 2nd, and if I fail, I forfeit $30. To help me achieve that goal, I have been logging my calories with LoseIt and I am part of a group training to walk a half marathon in April.
My blogging goals are a bit simpler.
I follow some more popular mommy bloggers, and have joined some mommy blogger groups on Facebook to help expand my pool of readers and get inspiration.
I have a paper journal that I’ve written out blog topic ideas in, and mapped out month-specific ideas (like September being NICU Awareness Month).
My short term goal is going to be small: posting a new blog every other Friday for a couple of months.
My ultimate goal is to work up to every Friday, and then possibly twice a week if I find I have time in my schedule.
What are your goals?
What do you want to accomplish in 2019, and how do you plan to do it?
Do you have personal goals, like I do, or do you have family goals?
Let’s share our hopes, dreams, goals, and resolutions so we can help hold one another accountable.
May 2019 be your year, and may you achieve everything you set your sights on.